New Article – Conversations with Grief

Grief and Bereavement: A Conversation with Grief

Conversations with Grief

[Exploring Life] As the third anniversary of my mother’s death approaches, the feeling of her absence remains remarkably vibrant. While the nature of my grief continues to transfigure itself, even three years later, it has definitely not “gone away” and nor can I say that, “I am over it.” In The Nature of Grief, I stated that, “The feeling of grief does not go away, but it does evolve.” I also indicated that at a fundamental level, grief and bereavement are necessary spiritual endeavours in life, more than they are psychological events that need to be “fixed.” I would like to explore here the possibility of grief as an intimate conversation, that is, how it can befriend us and teach us to live deeper, more authentic lives.

I could not have imagined writing the previous sentence three years ago while immersed the raw grief that emerges during that mercurial period of time immediately following the loss of a loved one. In the aftermath of death, grief cuts a gaping wound deep within our hearts. During this period of mourning, as we try to find our way through the emotional instability that has fallen upon us, we are unable to imagine the hidden potential within our suffering. None of this is to say that I no longer feel the poignancy, and indeed the heavy weight in my heart, over the loss of my parents. It is to say, however, that the nature of my grief has changed over time, and our capacity to move into conversation with it is an essential core competency in living.

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Fast Time and the Aging Mind – NYTimes.com

Ageing and the feeling of time – becoming stuck in mindless habits create the illusion that time passes more quickly – mindfulness and engaging in new endeavours expand our feeling of time…

It’s simple: if you want time to slow down, become a student again. Learn something that requires sustained effort; do something novel. Put down the thriller when you’re sitting on the beach and break out a book on evolutionary theory or Spanish for beginners or a how-to book on something you’ve always wanted to do. Take a new route to work; vacation at an unknown spot. And take your sweet time about it.

via Fast Time and the Aging Mind – NYTimes.com.

National Portrait Gallery, Canberra – Previous Exhibitions

This short video is quite wonderful…

National Portrait Gallery, Canberra – Previous Exhibitions.

Jenny Sages: Paths to Portraiture is a short film featuring interviews with Jenny Sages, her husband Jack Sages, author Helen Garner and National Portrait Gallery Historian, Sarah Engledow. 

New Article – Thresholds: Profound Moments in Life

Excerpt

[Exploring Life] The rhythm of our life is defined by the thresholds of experience that open up along our pathway through time. Thresholds are points of no return; they form passageways between what once was, and what now will be. We all experience life-changing events that unexpectedly alter our trajectory through time. These profound moments in life usually appear unexpectedly, and they always serve to place us in the midst of a new frontier, a terrain that is both unfamiliar and strange to our sensibilities…

Read more via Thresholds: Profound Moments in Life.

A Socioeconomic Critique of Ageing

More on the pressing issue of ageism, the commoditization of life, and false depictions of aging:

The frustrating thing about these kinds of depictions of ageing is that they frame ageing as a choice—a choice we make when we don’t buy the right skin cream or drive the right car. This, in turn, transforms youth into an economic status symbol—a highly valuable and sought-after community, even in markets that are traditionally geared towards older people. This is inevitable, but it’s not necessarily a bad thing. It becomes a bad thing when people operate off of the assumption that those who don’t have access to this commodity (older people) are somehow less valuable than those who do (younger people).

via A Socioeconomic Critique of Ageing.

Department of Health & Ageing – Positive Ageing Projects Funded

A positive development in Australia…

The Australian Government will provide funding to support a range of projects focused on promoting a positive message about ageing and supporting older Australians to live well in old age.

via Department of Health & Ageing – Positive Ageing Projects Funded.